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How to get the best out of your partner


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Getting the best out of your partnerI was listening to the radio the other day when a girl wondered whether she is getting the best from her partner, and how can she make sure that her partner is giving her all his attention. This is present in the mind of 90% of the individuals who are into a relationship. I realized if I had expected my partner to know all my likes and dislikes before we got married our relationship would have not sustained and we wouldn’t have been there for each other for the past 15 years. Here some tips to enliven your relationship.

Always remember special occasions like birthday or an anniversary or else your partner would be very upset with you for forgetting a birthday or an anniversary. Again what is more important is that how you relate to each other throughout your lives and not just on one or two days of the year. Trust your partner and you can expect the same from the other side.

One of the biggest relationship killers is most definitely infidelity. Many people struggle to understand and come to terms with such a betrayal but more importantly, struggle to regain the trust. If between the two, there is trust factor, then you can be sure that you are having the healthiest relationship and this will be an eternal relationship.

No partner can accept disrespect or abuse. Abuse is something which is tolerated far too often.  No one needs to tolerate any kind of physical, emotional or any other abuse. I only have one bit of advice to someone who is in an abusive relationship, get out, even if the abuse is only occasional. Even occasional abuse is unacceptable and it will only get worse.

You can always return if and when they have sorted themselves out but no matter how much you have been promised that it will never happen again it always will unless you take a stand. So, never get into abuse or disrespecting your partner, as self esteem is very important for every individual.

You should be able to communicate to your partner openly and freely, without any hesitation. Lack of ability to communication is a real relationship killer. Often all it takes is the ability to listen to each other and this helps in gaining the best understanding from your partner. When you are open enough to tell and share your problems, your partner realizes his/her importance and tries to give the best to help you and keep you happy.

Emotional support for achieving partner’s dreams and desires is again very important factor to help your partner to give you the best. It is also important to be totally upfront in sharing your dreams and desires and the better half should know about it. Other issues sometimes develop when one partner is far more ambitious than the other or just wants different things out of life. Unless your dreams of a perfect marriage are on the same playing field then it’s often a ticket to disaster. A couple need to be straightforward and honest with each other both before and after marriage to ensure that the dreams and desires of both parties are met and fulfilled. This will keep the relationship evergreeen.

Devote reasonable quality time to your partner. To many it sounds strange, but a lot of married couples feel lonely, especially when their partners work long hours and/or spend periods of time away from home. Sometimes a partner will head to the pub, to the gym or to a mate’s, after work. In any relation ship there has to be a balance between work, personal time and family/couple time.

Physical intimacy is an integral part of a relationship. Lack of intimacy can often make people feel worthless, unwanted and unloved. Even if sexual relations have diminished or ceased, a relationship can still survive through other types of intimacy, a kiss, a cuddle or a caress. Once intimacy ceases in any form partners often feel that they are no longer desired and it is inevitable that people who need an element of intimacy will seek affection else where. So, this part should always be taken into note that you cannot take things for granted, even if you are 80 years old.

Keep the spark of romance alive. Many people often say they think their relationship is over when they no longer feel that they are that special person in their partner’s lives. It can become a real big deal when a couple settles down into married life and the romancing comes to an end.  No more flowers, romantic diners, endless conversations while you learn all about each other. Perhaps the presents have stopped or less effort is put into making each other happy or children have taken priority. Of course the answer is so much simpler than heading for the divorce courts, just start making an effort and spend more quality time as a couple, bring the good times back. After all that’s just what you’d have to do if you were to start all over again anyways! 

 

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Responses to How to get the best out of your partner

  1. 1 Reshmi

    Thank you so much. There is a positive change in our relationship. My partner now really makes me feel important and also discusses a lot with me, about all his small and big office politics. This way, we spend a lot of time with each other and he feels nice too. Jyoti, I really adore you.
    Cheers
    Reshmi

  2. 2 Geoff Chinois

    Really useful advice….and as for your last sentence….good point!

    Geoff

  3. 3 Yunus

    Hmm….Iam gonna make my buddy read this when He comes from Office!! :smile_wp:

  4. 4 karikalan

    how to get good partn :mad_wp: er

  5. 5 Milton Keynes

    Nicely written. I am hungry to read your next post.

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