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Parenting Challenges in the New Millennium


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Parenting Challenges in the New MillenniumThe horrific details in the paper seemed too awful to be true. Three young boys, all below 18, had lured another 11 year-old friend of theirs to a house whose occupants were away, with the promise of letting him play hours of video games. When the boy began to cry after a while, to be sent home, they strangled him to death, then covered up their tracks in a macabre re-enactment of a scene from a Tamil hit film of 2005 – by throwing chilli powder to put sniffer dogs off the scent. After disposing of their friend’s body, the three rang up the boy’s parents as kidnappers, asking for ransom money.
 
The Chennai police did not take long to crack this particular case in the final weeks of 2006. What completely shocked and stunned everyone who heard of the details was the reason that emerged for this crime – the three young boys had kidnapped and murdered their friend to raise money to buy a cell phone and to celebrate New Year’s Eve in style. How could children be guilty of such a grave act? How could they have grown up without a sense of what is right, and what is completely wrong?
 
Among all the pressures we face as individuals today, the responsibility of being good parents to our children remains at the top of the list. Every time an incident of the kind described above takes place, a furious debate rages for some days in the press about how and why such things can happen. Then the voices die down. But only changed attitudes and practices in individual households, and a greater awareness and sensitivity about issues of right and wrong in society, can prevent such tragedies. For after all, the tragedy of the murdered boy in Chennai is the tragedy not only of the boy whose life was lost, but of the three youthful perpetrators as well. What will become of them, after having been marred thus at such a young age?
 
Some important things for us to consider as parents are:

  • When we dream big dreams for our children, seeing them in successful adult roles, are we leaving space to visualize them as ‘good human beings’ as well? Or are we focused too narrowly on the development of talent, ability, and skill sets, all leading to material success?
  • When we spend time with our children, how much of the time do we actually spend in deep and meaningful discussion of what is good and what should be avoided at all costs? Is the time we spend together skewed more in favour of entertainment, or in knowledge-gathering activities?
  • When our children look at us, do they see somebody willing to fight for what we believe, willing to speak up against injustice, or do they see a stooped and sad figure, defeated by the system and willing to compromise at every turn?
  • When we try to compensate for a childhood where we didn’t have too many things, or had parents too strict for our liking, are we running the risk of becoming too lenient? Are we giving our children far too many treats and not enough bitter medicine?
  • When we hug our children and say “I love you” to them, are we also affirming at the same time, ‘I know you are good’, ‘I know you will have strength to fight injustice’, ‘I know you will never be intentionally cruel to another?’

If we are to help our children negotiate the dangers of temptation and excess, callousness and neglect in the face of continuous media exposure and peer pressure, such questions will have to be answered.
 
Children today need caring and ‘tough love’. They need hugs that reassure them of our presence, and clear boundaries laid down for them to tell them where it is safe to go, and where it is not. 

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Responses to Parenting Challenges in the New Millennium

  1. 1 AnjaniKumar

    :confused_wp: Yah mankind is growing in terms of awareness, have more knowledge then ever but I am sure most of them don’t know how to use it. I liked this column, its mind provoking. Its very evident in todays society that calousness has increased, people are aware but not sesitive enough towards the situations. Consumerism is increasing and people want to fetch all available to their family which is next to impossible. People have got a kind of rivalry today rather that responding to the situations they react out of their insatisfaction and the same is reflecting from the next generation. This incident is not very surprizing in tody’s world where information is availabel to everyone. But yes its indicative that where we have reached. Now we need to discipline us again, its very important to understand difference between our needs and luxery. We should not only know but also convey it as well to the coming genaration. We have to have some quality time to sit and talk about all these issue, I’ll request media to come up with these kind creative public discussion to have it clearly understood amondg their Readers, viewers

  2. 2 Geetanjali Das

    :biggrin_wp:
    Nice suggestions

  3. 3 G.V.V.Giri

    20.02.2007

    Yes ,the article once again brings to light the present age dillemma of misuse of Freedom&trust,and glaring self centeredness.

    Is this problem due to lack of parental guidanceof children or its an individual’s selfishness?

    We may have enough points to debate on either side.

    What is the remedy for this disguised brutalness?

    Who can tell &who can ensure?

    Let God bless us all with “Sanmati”

    G.V.V.Giri

  4. 4 S V S M SASTRY

    Really a wonderful article and makes me like people think a lot on the lines of real realities but not false realties. The realties which are really false but at some time we think really real are false realities. Infact, it is very true that –When we try to compensate for a childhood where we didn’t have too many things, or had parents too strict for our liking, are we running the risk of becoming too lenient? Are we giving our children far too many treats and not enough bitter medicine?

    A thought provoking article and it is an eye opener to me like people that it is not just enough if we parents spend time with our children but the interaction should make the children believe that we are living for them after all.

    To my observation, in today’s world children have more freedom given by the parents and in all paradox when you give your freeedom to others you will lose your own!

    In to-day’s world every thing is measured only interms of money and material gains. In good olden days when the communication system was not as it is today people used to write letters, communicate thro’ telegrams (greetings for example) but today all these have become obsolete and outdated. In those days great saints used to visit villages and spread spiritual propaganda thro’ their lectures. Today TV medium is so powerful that the world is at our threshold. Every day morning there are so many spiritual lectures but the end result is the spiritual masters too want their name on the top! This is a very very competitive world and in reality we are more losers than gainers, the reason being every saint (who is spiritual in nature) also gives his own opinions, ideas, reasons and never respect others’ views. In such a ticklish world real education is rare and I personally feel parents must teach their children not just education but the education children are seeking must be linked to human values.

    Maintenance of tradition is not the preservation of ashes. It is only to keep the flame alive!

    Sastry

  5. 5 SUSHMITA

    The article is very good.Specially the fact that children should be told & reminded by parents what is good or bad that they are doing,till they become big & sensible enough.

  6. 6 Elizabeth Joseph

    :smile_wp:
    Glad to come across people who take time off to create awareness with such meaningful articles

  7. 7 trupti sharma

    a very nice article ; thank u to the author ; for the suggetion that we should tell our child what is wrong & what is right untill he/she becomes mature.

    thank u again ! these kind of efforts can change the situation through changing the minds & stimulating towards this issue .

  8. 8 s.ranjan ojha

    once again brings to light the present age dillemma of misuse of Freedom&trust,and glaring self centeredness.

    Is this problem due to lack of parental guidanceof children or its an individual’s selfishness?

    We may have enough points to debate on either side.

    What is the remedy for this disguised brutalness?

    Who can tell &who can ensure?

    Let God bless us all with “RINKU”

  9. 9 Chitra Desai

    The article was excellent. It is really an eyeopener to our parents. It is not enough if we give all material needs to our children it is equally important to teach them good social behavior. As a parent even I will take out some time teach my small son the human values, value for life and a bit of social responsibility.

    Once again the article was really fantastic.

  10. 10 anuj

    hello,

    The article was excellent. It is really an eyeopener to our parents. It is not enough if we give all material needs to our children it is equally important to teach them good social behavior. As a parent even I will take out some time teach my small son the human values, value for life and a bit of social responsibility.

    Once again the article was really fantastic.

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